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Kids shouldn’t be seen or heard
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What is it about so many parents who think it’s OK to take their small children to “adult” places and expect the rest of us to put up with their obnoxious kid’s behavior?
Over the weekend my wife and I went to see the movie Hellboy II. It is rated PG-13, which means it is not recommended for kids under the age of 13 due to violence, scary creatures and lots of killing, both by humans and by the creatures. Nevertheless, the theater was full of kids from around four to six years old. Some of the parents did not get to see much of the movie having to shuttle their fussy off springs in and out of the theater. Of course, this did not enhance our enjoyment the film either. On other occasions, I have even seen infants at action movies full of explosions and loud bangs.
Recently we had dinner at Ruth’s Chris Steak House. We were baffled that at one of the tables there was both a baby and what looked like a new born infant. Inevitably annoying crying erupted.
Then there were lots of times when I lived in Reno that I watched parents herding their small kids through a casino at midnight. Or, adults holding babies while playing the slots.
Having kids comes with long term commitments and sacrifices. When responsible adults make the decisions to become parents they acknowledge and accept that fact that for a few years they may not be able to go to a lot of places, unless they can find an appropriate babysitter. Small children cannot be counted on behaving in an appropriate and non-disruptive manner. Regardless of how adorable you think your kid is, others may not be that enthralled by your child’s antics.
I once heard a psychologist make the statement that there is “children time” and then there is “adult time”. At the end of a day when it is time for a child to go to bed their time for the day is over. It is then time for the “adult time”, when parents can interact with each other without the disruption of the child. It is no different for the rest of us. When we go out to “adult” places we want to enjoy adult time without the disruption of a child, who is not even ours.
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So what do you say to all those childless adults at enjoying themselves and taking up spaces in lines at Disneyland or Sunsplash, or maybe even the zoo or at the circus?
Also shouldn't you be focused on the one your with rather than the ones around you? I hope your not one of those couples who has nothing to say to each other during a nice meal. You know the type, they just stare off and look pretty board, and are grateful when their meal comes to avoid more awkward silence. To really listen to someone is to be really involved in your conversation, hoping you are having one And If you are really in love, nothing else should matter, even the beautiful laughter or cry of a young child.
Children should not be allowed to disturb, nor should adults. If I wanted to hear the patter of little feet, the screams or laughter, or the temper tantrum cries, I'd go to a playground and record it so I could play it over and over. It has absolutely nothing to do with love.
If adulds are enjoying themselves, it's not problem nor is it intruding on the enjoyment of others. We recently took in a movie, and soon remembered why we don't go more often. We moved away from the couple with the infant and the 3-4 year old, but that wasn't good enough. He/She/IT continually let out a warhoop and ran up and down the isle in the semi-darkness. Of course, some may have thought it was cute, but most didn't. We didn't pay to watch junior act up. Same thing happens in restaurants. If an adult behaved with such disturbing manners, they'd be kicked out. What ever happened to babysitters?
Take the kids to kiddie land; keep them out of adult land where it's obvious they cannot behave. If you want love and are so concerned about it, then get it in appropriate places.
By the way, not talking has nothing to do with "in love." And even if you were talking, can you really hear with ear piercing sreams, cries, and parent shouts? Or is it just the image you want to project? We must live in different worlds.
As a parent of three children, the oldest in college, the youngest in grammar school, I see both sides of the issue. When my husband and I get a rare night out from the kids, we really don't want to have to hear some one else's. But I have also been "forced" to bring my own offspring along to fancy restaurants to celebrate the grandparents anniversary or birthdays. It was no fun for us or our kids. We finally put our foot down and said the events had to held at home where we could all relax.
I do have a funny one, though. One afternoon I took my three youngsters to the Mcdonald's at Sierra College & I-80 and while my kids were just being kids & enjoying their happy meals, this middle-aged, childless couple told me off about how noisy my kids were. I had to laugh and remind them that they were at the home of Ronald McDonald, not the Ritz, and also tried to remind them of what their own little kids must have been like.
"We don't have any children," the haughty woman said.
"That's probably a good thing," I replied.
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I have three kids and several neices, nephews and god-children. I am a firm believer in what you said. That is why we responsible parents trade off baby-sitting... so we can enjoy adult time, and so can everyone we are around.
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